I came across a wonderful quote from Steve Jobs (the Apple man) who has pancreatic cancer. I mention this so that others will see where this quote comes from more easily."Remembering that you are going to die is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose"
In my situation I have nothing to lose. Every day is a gift, and I have everything to gain from each day. I love the Mindfullness of this quote, this really is living in this very moment and is a wonderful reminder to make the most of what we do have. We DO have this moment and there is no point in wasting it in the self pity of having incurable cancer. After all if we don't make the most of today we are wasting what life we do have.
That said there is still a place for having self pity but not for too much, it takes up too much time, and potentially time is the one thing we know we don't have. But then this leads to the question - do any of us actually have anything to lose? There is no guarentee of a future even though we may have planned for it. The husband of someone who used to work at the same place as me was killed in the Clapham Junction crash. His plans for the future were unfulfilled and were 'lost'. There just are no guarentees in life.
This is a difficult concept to get people to understand. Life is hectic and needs to be planned - doing things, going places, thing that must be achieved. STOP! What about today? Sod next week - what about today?